CarolineFarberger - The Age Of Inclusion
Isn't it amazing that we live in a world and at a time when the top boss can walk home from the office as a man and come back as a woman?
So much respect for Caroline Farberger who's incredible story of transformation reveals how business life is experienced differently as a man and a woman.
Carl Berger was a high-ranking man in the Swedish business community, who underwent gender correction and became Caroline Farberger.
Being Chief Executive Officer of a Swedish insurance company, she has through her own experience gained an awakening about gender #inequality in business.
In the months following her transition, women came to her with their stories. She was told about a case of #sexualharassment at an earlier place of work. Asked why the person hadn’t approached her sooner, she said she was told, “because you were a man. If I had told you each time it happened, I would have become the problem.”
How can we create a more open and inclusive #workplace?
- 🔸 Integrate inclusivity into your core values
- 🔸 Create #safespaces for women and sexual minorities
- 🔸 Create opportunities for conversation
- 🔸 Practice inclusive #leadership
- 🔸 Make the workplace more #LGBTQ and differently abled inclusive
Time has come to create greater #business value with the hope of more #equal and #inclusive future
The MENtality – When boys don’t cry!
Boys don’t cry!
Let’s change this MENtality & break the gender stereotypes!
We never forget 8th March- Women's Day; literally every brand, every YouTube channel, every Instagramer starts posting content on feminism, churning out trending hashtags. But how many of us know that TODAY 19th November is International Men's Day!
Contrary to popular belief, feminism is not just for women, but for equality of all humans. Patriarchy, has not only throttled the voices of women down the ages, but also taught our men that they must be unbreakable and emotionless, imposing on them massive pressures of being the fender, the bread winner and someone with superhuman power.
Men are not metaphors for rocks and boulders. Men too are skin and bones, veins and nerves. They too can hurt and bleed. They too can shed tears and crave a hug.
Why is it so unacceptable to see our men, sensitive and vulnerable?
I have seen boys curling up behind phrases like "No homo, bro", and "Real men don't cry".
It's time for change.
Let's let men and boys be …..whatever they want to be - sensitive, soft spoken, emotional, care-givers, home makers, pink wearers - because there are no limits to what makes a real man. And the only thing that gets counted in this world is being humane and kind.
Men too go through physical and sexual abuse; the mental health of men is often not talked about. A day dedicated to men, should focus on these, to help men accept their vulnerabilities in a patriarchal society that attempts to cast them in moulds.
#internationalmensday #bustingstereotypes #keepitright #cohereconsultants
The MENtality – Let the woman raise the kids
Can't your wife do that?"
Have you gotten this response from a manager or supervisor or even a colleague when you are requesting leave for work related to home or children?
Like attending a school function or taking care of your child while your spouse has meetings or is away?
If you haven't, consider yourself lucky to have escaped a shocking stereotype around male employees.
What's even more shocking is the negative perception that people have of fathers who take meaningful paternal leave to spend time at home.
There is this general puzzlement why both the wife and husband have to be home at the same time for the baby.
Any leave more than a cursory 10-15 days is looked at with disbelief. For women, a maternity break is a given. But for men?
There are people who refer to paternity leave as a “vacation” or a time to basically slack off from work.
Such responses and negative notions full of outdated gender roles NEED TO CHANGE!
Child care is not a wife's job. Both parents need to raise their kids together. And when a new mother is taking care of the baby, the new father can take care of her. We are in nuclear families more and more and that's just the way the world is changing.
But, are men ready to find this balance in their lives? Are men keen to stand up for their right to parent? Are they willing to challenge these notions and swim against the tide?
What do you think?
AM I CRAZY OR IS IT YOU?
YOU are the problem!
Is there someone in your life who says this to you? Who makes you feel like it's always your fault? Do you feel some days that all you do is apologize?
Are you thinking yes? Then let me ask you - have you heard of gaslighting?
When we hear the word violence, we see a picture of a person, battered and bruised.
That is what violence may look like, in many cases. But even more often, violence is the kind that doesn't show. I'm talking about battered minds.
The pandemic has been like steroid for all forms of domestic violence but more so mental or emotional abuse.
Emotional abuse which is in no way less destructive, is often overlooked, trivialised, and discounted, even by the person suffering it.
These circumstances are ripe for a rise in cases of gaslighting.
GASLIGHTING, if you don’t know the word, is a form of psychic violence where one uses manipulative tactics to gain power over another and makes the victim of gaslighting question reality.
Like in one case, X could see that her spouse Y was spending unusual time on his mobile. She questioned him and even found that he was sexting other women. He not only deleted the sexts, but also manipulated X to think she was crazy for even doubting her and made her feel guilty. He gaslit her.
From our personal to professional lives many of us are being gaslighted to doubt our instincts. It difficult to recognise, identify and, most importantly of all, prove, which is possibly why it happens so frequently and is particularly damaging.
Being mindful of how you feel and and how you're being made to feel & establishing boundaries is important in friendships, family, and work relationships.
If any of this sounds familiar try the following:
- 🔸 Start writing things down when they occur
- 🔸 Stop apologizing over and over again
- 🔸 Instead of verbal arguments, try to text. Where you verbally argue, try to record.
Find one trusted soul to talk to who keeps you rooted.
And remember, the universe loves you. You are*not* the problem.
#InternationalDayOfNonViolence #endviolence #emotionalabuse #keepitright #mentalhealth #healing #trauma #selflove #toxicpeople #covid #toxicrelationships #cohereconsultants